Tell me again how rape and sexual assault accusations will ruin a man’s career
— Paxmee (@Paxmee) November 9, 2016
Note: This post contains a couple of affiliate links to some stuff I thought might be helpful for some people. I don’t know. I don’t feel like I know anything anymore. May the indifferent gods have mercy on us all.
I don’t really know what to say. I mean, the best I can say about Trump supporters is that they’ve certainly gotten the man they deserve.
The classless, churlish, orange, xenophobic, economically deranged, unable-to-responsibly-use-a-social-media-account-let-alone-a-military, accused child-rapist man.
Anyway. If this election’s done your nerves up all wretched, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Set alarms to remind yourself if you have to. I know that stress kills my appetite and keeps me awake at night, so do everything you can to eat and sleep properly. There’s a long, hard fight ahead, and we need everyone well-rested and strong.
I wish I had more to give you, but I don’t. The best I can offer are a few things that help get me through it when the feces hits the blades:
- Maybe some of these 100 Acts of Self-Care That Still Won’t Be Enough to Get You Through the Election?
- 19 Natural Remedies for Anxiety. It’s normal to feel anxious right now, especially if you’re a woman, PoC, non-Christian, disabled, LGBT, or not a complete sociopath. While these remedies won’t fix everything, they can help take the edge off.
- This slow-cooker cauliflower leek chowder. It’s warm, hearty, satisfying, and great comfort food. Even if you don’t feel up to cooking, you can toss the ingredients in a slow-cooker and have a nourishing meal.
- Donations. Now, more than ever, Planned Parenthood, the NAACP, 350.org, the ACLU, the Trevor Project, GLAAD, the American-Arab Anti-Discrimination Committee, and other environmental and civil rights organizations need help for the fight ahead. If you are passionate about protecting the world around you and the people in it, if this election has left you feeling angry and powerless, now’s the time to get involved and empower yourself to make a difference.
- Rock rose Bach flower essence. If you’re down with flower essences, rock water may help you get through this. It’s especially helpful if you often find yourself coping with intense horror or dread. It helps you maintain calmness and presence of mind. You may also want to try aspen for fear, hornbeam for mental exhaustion, star of bethlehem for distress, or red chestnut for imagining the worst.
- A stone. Any stone. Pick it up from the ground. Feel its coolness against your palm. Hold it tightly in your hand, and let your anger, tension, and frustration drain into it. Offer it thanks, then toss it into a body of water. No stones or bodies of water available? Try doing the same while you’re squeezing the crap out of a dish sponge. Visualize your negative feelings being sucked up into the sponge, then wring it out under running water. It’s a great little relaxation meditation to try while you’re already doing dishes.
It’s naturally scented with cedar, bergamot, and ylang ylang to promote inner strength and calm. It’s also soy wax, so you don’t have to worry about it offgassing toluene while you’re already worrying about someone who can’t even be trusted with Twitter being given access to nuclear launch codes.
It’s filled with lavender and mugwort, so you can relax and lucidly dream of a world where this election ended differently. (Perhaps with an extinction-level meteor, but I digress.) Plus, it’s hand-embroidered with a Spanish phrase that tells other people to quit bothering you. Appropriate.
- This YouTube playlist. I made it awhile ago, and occasionally add more videos to it when I come across them. It’s designed to help you unwind in times of high stress.
- A palm stone.
Amethyst is calming, and a worry stone can give you something to fidget with when you’re nervous in public because the creepy guy leering at you on the bus has just had his gross, entitled attitude toward women validated by a national election. For serious, though, they’re good for people who tend to bite their nails, pick at themselves, or engage in other not-necessarily-healthy fidgeting behaviors when they’re anxious.
It’s true that the best we can do is keep fighting hate, intolerance, and a society that routinely devalues anyone who isn’t a middle-to-upper-class white, heterosexual, Christian male. I don’t blame you if this situation has left you feeling demoralized and powerless. Hopefully you’ll be able to find a source of strength and solace. If you have any you think might help other people, please, please post them in the comments below.